They go hand in hand, like black and white, love and hate, hot and cold, yin and yang. Some of us are good at confronting both, whilst others run and hide, and peek out just occasionally, to get a glimpse of the scary, dark real world.
There is a fine line between both, like pleasure and pain, but denying the truth is detrimental to functioning like a normal adult. We can only run and hide from it for so long, before it catches up to us. Oh, and when it does catch up, it is like a tsunami of shame, guilt and anxiety that envelopes us, taking us down deep, into that familiar black hole of despair.
The shame comes from not being able to deal with the problems as they arise. Simple tasks, that most adults deal with on a daily basis. Paying bills, budgeting, making phone calls. Making, keeping and attending appointments. Keeping in touch with friends. Relatively simple tasks.
But when things get out of hand, that’s when the SHIT really hits the fan!!! This is when the shame, guilt, anxiety and depression start taking over and start affecting the bigger things in life, like work and relationships.
The guilt comes from letting myself, my children and my family and friends down. It comes in giant waves and totally annihilates you. Leaving you at crisis point.
By now, what started as small, simple tasks, are now giant problems. Because you didn’t pay those bills, you didn’t keep those doctors appointments and you didn’t keep in touch with those friends.
It goes round and round, like a vicious cycle. It churns you around like a washing machine and then spits you out. If you are lucky, you land upright. Finding yourself in a complete mess. And so begins the process of trying to pick yourself up and attempt to put the pieces of what is left of your life back together.
Amen.
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Thanks for this blog, it triggered off connections in my own brain about truth and denial and my own issues with alcohol. I think I can feel another blog coming on……..
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Glad to hear it inspired you. Was a little unsure about this one, but something I have been pondering over for a while now. Xx
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As always,a pleasure to read your amazing words.Great post!All the love!
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By the way,I’ve nominated you for the Liebster Award,for more details check out
https://claudiasava.wordpress.com/2016/03/14/the-liebster-award/
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I feel your pain and frustration, we all get overwhelmed in life. Take care. You will emerge.
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I think this is a very negative post, if honest.. It’s a shame you haven’t provided the reader with solutions to work on.
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It’s disappointing you feel that way Suzy. As someone who lives with chronic depression on a daily basis, and have done so since I was a small child, this is just my own personal experience. If nothing else, perhaps it gives the reader an insight into mental health issues.
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I’m sorry you are going through such a bad time. Sad, but well written piece.
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